Thursday, September 15, 2011

Cage Crossroads

We're at a crossroads right now and I'm not sure what to do? This morning I woke up at 7:38a to what sounded like Lucas playing in his room. of course I thought to myself... that's crazy. He's in his crib. But then it hit me... that sneaky lil' man climbed out. Big sigh...

Lucas has always been brave and when it comes to an obstacle, there is very little that gets in his way. He was awake... so why wouldn't he get up and play with toys? Sure this makes sense to a toddler, but to Mommy and Daddy... it's nice when WE decide getup time. It's all about maintaining the upper-hand, right (I say this sarcastically)?

Anyway I'm weighing the options and quite frankly I don't know what to do!? It's clear he's "ready" for a big-boy bed, but am I? I don't want my kid getting up when HE wants. I like the fact that his crib is a pseudo cage and for the most part, when I put him into the crib, I know he's safe. He's not chasing the cat, squirting bleach in his eyes or lighting the house on fire (all of these things have almost happened... so yes, my fears are valid). Giving the Lucas the freedom of making bedtime choices means more work for me.

On the other hand, I know that we're gearing up all of these big things: potty training, no more high-chair, big boy cups, and big-boy bed. For me to hold off on developmental growth is unfair and for selfish reasons. Lucas having a "real" bed could be a great thing. Some days he asks for a nap and the idea of him putting himself into bed is thrilling (for all of us). He's growing up and this could be a big and great way to start learning how to be a big boy.

Sigh.... so here we are. A two-year old who can climb out of his crib. What to do? What to do? Here are the options in my mind:
  1. Discipline Lucas and teach him it's not okay to climb out of the crib.
  2. Remove the side of the crib and deal with him having his own opinions regarding nap-time/bedtime/wake-up time.
I just don't know if I'm ready to give up the cage. It's pretty awesome. 

What did you do? I could use some perspective here.


  1. The biggest thought that comes to my mind is your impending move. That plays into the decision in a big way. Do you want to get all the transition over at once or separate the new space and new bed situation in a more gradual way. You also have the opportunity to create his new space around the fact that he can get out on his own. So maybe that means his new "room" has no distractions or things to get into until he's settled into a new sleep/wake routine. Once they have a little taste of freedom and power.....there's no going back. :) But that can be a good thing.

  2. Ugh, such a tough decision! Trip has only gotten out of his crib once (which was months ago and he was very angry at the time and then scared that he fell out) so we haven't had to go there yet. For Lucas' safety, it might be good to let him have some more freedom. I like Emily's idea of not having distractions in the room. If there aren't many toys or things to explore or get into, he will probably be less likely to be in a hurry to get out of bed. Then, when he does get out of bed before you're up, you know he is safe in his room and not burning the house down.